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By Samar Minallah | News & Politics | Published 16 years back

In certain elements of NWFP, the customized of sar paisa is commonplace. The bridegroom, to be able to marry, will pay a sum that is large of to your girl’s moms and dads. This custom transforms her into an item of financial value, devoid of feelings or emotions. This living, breathing object of value can actually be offered and re-sold for an increased price — without having a family’s ‘honour’ being at risk. The more ‘honour’ her family gains in fact, the higher her value.

Maimoona from Parachinar wound up in Kohat prison whenever she declined become juggled from a single guy to some other for a greater price. She had been downered down to her relative for 50,000 rupees in wedding. Meanwhile, her paternal relative got an offer of one-and-a-half lakh rupees, which he easily accepted on the behalf without her permission.

The only option kept before Maimoona would be to escape along with her husband see it here. Having no written evidence of their marriage that is legal wound up in Kohat prison. Maimoona’s brothers and paternal cousins are attempting their utmost to have her out from the prison to be able to regain their lost honour and cash.

Niyaz Khela, who’s inside her fifties that are late belongs to Karak. She had been downered off in wedding to a person much older to her. Nevertheless inside her teenagers then, her spouse would often beat her over trivial issues. To be able to getting away from life of misery, she eloped with another guy who she had met while she had opted to fetch water.

Needing to choose from the likelihood of being killed and residing a full life of torment with a guy that would continue steadily to mistreat her, Niyaz Khela find the previous.

Barefoot, without any product control, she, along with her paramour, hid within the crevices associated with rugged hills of Karak, dodging the killers that chased her. “The gunshots didn’t frighten me personally because I preferred death to going back to a husband that is abusive” claims Niyaz Khela. Nonetheless, after couple of years of hiding, Niyaz Khela’s 2nd spouse handled to pay for 10,000 rupees to her ex-husband, that was twice the amount initially compensated by the initial husband as ‘bride cost. ’ That way not merely ended up being their pride elated but his missing ‘honour’ ended up being additionally regained by means of economic revenue.

In Karak, a married girl has a greater cost available in the market because her ex-husband, if alive, needs to be paid for their monetary loss. Unless, he’s provided an increased cost than exactly just what he previously initially taken care of the girl, he receives pighore (taunt) through the community.

If cash is perhaps not compensated as settlement, the male perpetrator is normally killed as well as the girl delivered back into the parents, whom decide to try yet again to marry her off. The amount of money they get from her marriage that is second is down to her aggrieved ex-husband.

Hence, right right here, more guys are killed such offences because a female, even when she actually is abandoned or divorced because of the spouse, continues to have a cost on the market. The person can be acquitted if he will pay plenty of cash as payment towards the party that is aggrieved. Therefore honour, in this context, is connected more to wide range than to one’s behaviour that is moral.

As Niyaz Khela confirms, ‘Moozh watan topak that is kay paisa balaa dee, ’ (inside our town weapons and cash are giants! ). It’s been a lot more than four years since Niyaz Khela abandoned her town and settled in Islamabad being a migrant that is economic. Her 2nd spouse left her for the next girl who he purchased at a affordable cost.

Surviving in a little ghetto, exercising her traditions in a international land, Niyaz Khela needed to work tirelessly to marry off her three kids, all on the very very own. She worked as a labourer, making bricks for the high-rise structures of Islamabad to pay for for a bride for example of her sons. On her younger son, a bride was got by her in swarra (change of females) being a change with her very very very own child.

It really is interesting that while honour could be tarnished with a small slide of behavior, traditions like swarra and sar paisa, where a lady can be used as an item of value or a musical instrument of creating alliances, bring honour. Niyaz Khela, like a number of other Pukhtuns, does not have any option but to check out the traditions her forefathers practiced. In case a Pakhtun does not work based on Pakhtunwali, he or she isn’t any longer considered a dhroon Pakhtun (an honourable Pakhtun). It is extremely difficult also for a tremendously gallant Pakhtun to manage the venomous pighore. The way that is only free oneself through the wrath of pighore is always to prove his/her allegiance to ‘Pakhunwali’(the Pakhtun rule of conduct), which may also be in the cost of someone’s life.